10 Tips to Reduce Stress

10 Tips to Reduce Stress

Like a lot of us I’m a do-er. I rarely sit still. I always have an idea on my mind. A to-do list on the go. That makes switching off when I need to, whether that’s now during IVF or just in general life, really hard. So as part of my Finding calm in chaos project, I’ve been using tips to reduce stress lately. This is hat has helped. I hope it helps you too if you’re a bit of a whirlwind like me!

  1. Mindful apps | When people message me about meditation, it tends to be that they are put off by the idea of sitting in silence. It is a strange thing to get comfortable with at first, Instead, starting with guided meditation and mindful apps can really help. Not only does it give me some head space to clear my mind, but also the audio can often give me some ideas on how to reframe my thoughts. Lately I’ve been loving Ananda, Insight Timer, Headspace and for fertility, Mindful IVF.


2. Me-time | I know. I’m not keen on that phrase either. It feels a bit “me me me”. But sometimes we really do need just that. Whether it’s a bath alone, saying know to an extra night of work, or just putting your tunes on in the car to sing your heart out. Building in little pockets of me time into your day can refresh you, ready for the normality of helping others in your life



3. Sleep | How do you feel when you’re lacking sleep? Everything’s a bit more overwhelming the next day? A little less creative as you try and keep your eyes open. I’ve been making sleep a priority. Not easy with these hormones rushing around my body but my sleep buddies have been the Lush Sleepy cream, the meditation apps as I fall asleep and setting an alarm for 10pm to remind me to go up.


4. Give up caffeine | Caffeine enhances out inner whirlwind. After a week or so of giving it up (and a couple of headaches), the cravings have stopped. Start with de-caf coffee (it can trick your mind a little. It got me past that morning expectation) and now I’ve moved on to slices of orange or apple in hot water (I know that sounds random but try it!).


tips to relieve stress, coffee jar, coffe perculator

5. Do something creative | Whether it’s doodling on an iPad, making pom poms or cooking, start a little creative hobby. Just don’t do what I did and let it turn into an Etsy shop. That doesn’t help the to do list!

6. Make a list … of what’s stressing you out. Think about if this was your last week on earth. Would any of these stresses really matter? What’s the worst that could happen if they don’t get done? Sometimes we get ourselves into such a  tiz trying to get everything done, we don’t give ourselves time to prioritize.

7. Consider starting a journal | The way you make lists (I shared how I do mine in this video) can make a difference to whether they are achievable and whether you feel you can manage. Give your tasks time limits. This can help you work out whether you have enough time in the day or not, prioritise and add those you haven’t time for to the next day. Often it’s not that you failed at your list, it’s that it was an achievable list in the beginning.


8. Move your body | If you’re like me, you probably wonder whether you have time for exercise, but it’s proven to relax you, to improve your mood and your creativity so it’s worth it. It could just be stopping to go on a ten minute walk in the fresh air, or popping on a Yoga with Adriene video

9. Do things well | I drastically cut down on my commitments this year, from giving up a job I loved but wasn’t able to do well, to cutting back on the social media apps I use. Consider which areas of your life you love, and which you don’t feel good about anymore. What are doing because you feel you should or because you always have? Cut down because I personally believe its better to do a few things well than a lot of things mediocre.

10. If all else fails, just getting away! Some family had to cancel their weekend visit to us this weekend, and so Steve booked us an Air BnB cottage. It was only an hour away, but it was bliss to be somewhere I couldn’t get distracted into chores. Of course my mind kept defaulting to “must check the to do list”, but I could feel such a difference in my head space and body from the push to just relax, play, eat and snooze! The world didn’t end!

Hope this is helpful in some way. The rest of the Calm in Chaos project can be found here. How do you find calm in the chaos of life?

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  1. January 14, 2018 / 11:08 am

    I find having me time really helps and a lot of sleep! I have never thought about using mindful apps before, but may take a little look at them.

  2. January 14, 2018 / 11:33 am

    Distressing and dealing with stress takes practice and time. I personally look out of the window into the woods and count to a number and breathe. The ‘number’ varies according to the catalyst. From 10 to mmm quite a lot 🙂
    Making a list of stress factors has to be a good one here. Then tackle the causes.

  3. January 14, 2018 / 1:57 pm

    I never knew that there were apps for Mindfulness. I think I will download one and try it when I fly next time

  4. January 14, 2018 / 4:46 pm

    Lots of good ideas there and you are right I fin list making very therapeutic. if I get all these jobs and things to remember out of my head I can then relax. Mich x

  5. January 14, 2018 / 5:53 pm

    Really great list. I especially like the tip about doing less but doing it well! I am really struggling with this. I know I have too much on but I am not sure where I can/should cut back. I think a journal might help so I can track what’s going on over a bit of time!

  6. January 14, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    Great tips. I am so glad I read this. Don’t think I ever thought of making a list as a way to reduce stress but it totally makes sense. Thanks for this refreshing post!

  7. January 14, 2018 / 9:08 pm

    These are all great tips. I love apps, there are some brilliant ones out there. I also have a journal and am starting to exercise more. Kaz

  8. January 15, 2018 / 11:12 am

    I keep hearing how good the Headspace app is so I might give that a go, although I really hate headphones so I would have to use it on loudspeaker. Giving up caffeine would make me very very stressed!!!

    • January 28, 2018 / 8:33 am

      Oh you could definitely do it without headphones. Ha you’d be stressed at first without caffiene but you might be surprised how much calmer you feel once caffienes out of your system!x

  9. January 15, 2018 / 8:33 pm

    Thanks for the app recommendations! The only one I’ve used is headspace but I loved the free trial 🙂

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